- DO YOU
Friends made fade away, dudes might be there just for a season, and family members may disappoint, but there is one person you should always be able to trust: yourself. When you trust yourself, you are aware of your feelings and can express them, you adhere to a set of personal standards (and don’t take mess from other folks), and you have the tenacity to move beyond mistakes and keep working toward your goals. If you’ve lost your way, here is how to restore your trust to where it belongs. By Kenrya Rankin Naasel
- LISTEN TO YOUR BODY
Your body has an amazing ability to tell you what it needs, but it can take practice to hear what it’s saying. Open your ears. Feel run down? Slow down. Stomach in knots? Figure out what you’re anxious about and change it.
- MAKE A LIST
Try this exercise: Grab a piece of paper and a pen and write down all the things that you like about yourself. No attribute is too small or superficial; cute smile, kind eyes and good listener are all equally important. Now take a few minutes every morning to read your list and start your day knowing that a person like that, a person like you, is worth protecting and cheerleading for.
- BE NICE
If your bestie told you she messed up on something at work, you’d never tell her that she’s stupid or can’t get anything right. So why do you say these ugly things to yourself when you make a mistake? When you catch yourself about to be unkind, take a breath and say what you’d say to someone you love.
- MAKE — AND KEEP — PROMISES TO YOURSELF
Just how we see our trust in others grow when they do what they say they are going to do, we can do the same internally. Need to get your blood pressure down? Promise to work out at least three days a week, and then do it. You’ll eventually learn that you are to be trusted.
- ASSESS YOUR INNER CIRCLE
If you have negative Nellies in your life who (on purpose or unconsciously) undermine your ability to trust in your intuition and dreams, it’s time to get new friends. If you’d rather not drop ’em — or if it’s your mama who is doing the undermining — have a talk with her about how she is impacting your mood and progress. On the flip side, surround yourself with people who are encouraging and uplifting; folks who are fearlessly pursuing their own dreams will be more likely to affirm yours.
- RECHARGE YOUR BATTERIES
It’s hard to hear your inner voice when it’s tired and strained. Take breaks when you need to so you can regain your balance. Even a solo evening at the movies or dinner at your favorite restaurant can be enough to shift your perspective to a more positive place.
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